Real Connections

Connections find their richness in their simplicity. Being nothing more and nothing less than ourselves. People at peace with others being nothing more and nothing less than themselves.
Then people go and change. Enhancing or diminishing their own capacities to experience life. Being ourselves and accepting others then involves supporting or resisting these changes. (Hopefully supporting life enhancing change and resisting life diminishing change.)
Conceptually pure orthodoxies sneak in and capture our attention, with the result that we filter out the people in our lives. We can no longer see each other as we are. We see each other only in terms of what we are not. Connections lose their simplicity and ultimately their richness. In the upholding of the ideal connection, we lose the only connections we have access to, the messy, real ones.