So What Do I Want?

Wanting something bad enough. Isn't that what much of will power is about? Wanting something so much that action, even unpleasant action, is taken. Can the inverse be said for lack of action?
Then there is the problem of our wanters being fundamentally broken somehow. Those of us in the Christian tradition sentimentally term this original sin. My wanter is not even turned on. Or at least not turned on when anyone is looking. I don't have permission to want. That lack of permission is so deeply ingrained, I have trouble identifying what I want. (Fortunately, no one asks.) (Even more fortunately, I am starting to ask.)
Being unclear about what I want versus what others think I should want versus what I need versus what others want and need... results in inaction. I need to get clear on what I want. Not because my wants supercede all other factors, but because only when I am clear about my own wants can I more sensibly and caringly sort between and integrate the many and competing voices that cry for my attention.